Letting Go

 

Letting Go

 

Have you ever wondered why you hold onto emotional and physical pain longer than needed?  There is a belief that we create and maintain problems to give us a sense of identity – to define who we are – to give us purpose.

 

Do you know of anyone who creates problems and then swoops in to save the day? Or someone who creates problems to then play the role of victim for sympathy and attention?

 

These behaviors, whether in ourselves or around us are due to the need to replay our past mistakes like a broken record in our minds which in turn builds feelings of shame and regret.  Carrying these burdens dictates the actions we take in the now.  In addition, we hold onto worry and frustration about the future creating unnecessary stress.  Stress has been linked to numerous health issues and the majority of us live with this fabricated stress every day treating is as our normal state.

 

We all know that if we put a little energy to something we get a little out… the same holds true for letting go.  By letting go just a little of your past and future regrets, you obtain a little peace in your life but if you let go of a lot, then you will bring in a lot of peace.  More peace equals less stress!  Isn’t that the formula we all desire?

 

Here is a sampling of actions you can take today to begin to let go of the pain and allow peace into your mind and body:

 

1. Meditation/Yoga

2. Physical Activity

3. Learn a new skill

4. List out your accomplishments and continue to add to the list daily

5. Focus your energy on that which you CAN control and not that which you CAN’T control

6. Engage in a creative project (painting, crafts, gardening, book club)

7. Write a letter to whomever you hold your anger for, then burn the letter

8. Take responsibility for you could have done better

9. Wear a rubber band on your wrist and pull it every time you begin to obsess on the angry thoughts

10. Have gratitude for the positive memories and know that life is a learning experience

11. Visualize how you were before the event and know that you now can be that again

12. Take deep breaths and focus on your breath when you feel angry

 

And lastly, fill a backpack with rocks representing your past hurts and take a hike.  When you are ready, remove one rock at a time, naming the rock with a specific memory or person or event that has brought you pain and release it.  You may find that you have packed more rocks than actual pains!

 

Letting go allows you to make space in your life for new and exciting adventures, experiences, loves, memories.  Letting go brings you inner peace and reduces stress.  Letting go allows you to view the world with new eyes ready to create, build and live that life you have always dreamt about.

 

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Importance of Belief

 

It is essential to have an attitude of believing the best in others; understanding this concept can have its challenges.

 

The self-fulfilling prophecy refers to the idea that when someone creates a belief in something that is not yet true, and expects something with certainty, it will become true.  With people, it suggests that as we communicate our expectations, they will conform and deliver the appropriate results.

 

When working with people, this is critical.  When you express a lack of confidence in someone, it is returned with mediocrity, however if you believe in them and expect them to do well, research has shown that they will live up to that expectation.

 

What we expect, all too often, is exactly what we get.

 

The four key principles of the self-fulfilling prophecy:

 

·  We form certain expectations, or beliefs, of people or events based on our own perceptions and experiences

·  We communicate those expectations through our behaviors in a way that we would not have done without the belief

·  People generally respond by adjusting their behavior to match

·  The result is that the original expectation becomes reality

 

Based on these principles, we can conclude that the expectations leaders place on their team determines the quality of the teams’ output. A study of 100 self-made millionaires has shown that the most common characteristic in the group was the desire and ability to see the good in others. They were people builders, not critics. They empowered and supported their team to be their very best through positive means. 

 

Believing the best in people is a critical piece of building successful viable relationships.

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